A new year brings the promise of things being better. This will be the year you land that job, save that money, and yes, find The One. But before you get out there and meet them, perhaps you should watch this video.

Dan Savage always offers sage relationship advice, and this clip is no exception. Here he reminds us that The One is a lie. No one is perfect for you, so if you continue to search for someone that is you’ll end up alone with cats.

The best we can do is recognizing the flaws we can live with, the price of admission if you will, and sucking it up. As someone who does just that with my computer-game addicted, procrastinating spouse every day, I think Dan Savage has got this one right.